1. Life is short for us all! Do yourself a new favor and commit to creating a vibrant social life for yourself in 2013. It will likely take you telling yourself “I am going to get out this weekend and every weekend I can.”Being a homebody is the safest and most comfortable thing we can do. You will not cross paths with interesting people of like mind unless you force yourself to get out and play.
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Your approach to much of this will likely be determined by your over-all perspective on life; whether you are a glass half-full or half-empty kind of person. Do you approach life, basically, from a positive point of view – with your eyes fixed on the opportunities, or are you more worried about minimizing the downside? If “it’s all good”, then perhaps simply being aware of what’s ahead will suffice. If not, then perhaps there are a few questions you should ask yourself before you head down a path with a man with these kind of family entanglements.
1. Will you be able to handle your future husband’s communicating with his ex wife on a weekly basis as he is co-parenting his children?
2. Are you clear about what your roll will be as a step-mother?
3. Can you accept the fact that your step children may never say they love you or call you mom?
4. Are you emotionally & spiritually strong enough to share your husband with an ex-wife?
I always encourage singles to “cast a wide net” in search of a mate. Certainly, dating someone older could be a part of this. It’s just a matter of being thoughtful and strategic about your love life. As we know, there are happy and healthy couples with significant age differences all around us. Maybe it’s something for you as well? On the other hand, perhaps you’re the type who wants to singularly co-create your baggage with someone closer to your own age. Know that the love of your life is out there and just be open to whatever package that he might come in. To get more insights on how these tips may apply to you inquire at Karla@NineGPS.com for a private consultation. I wish you well! Stay optimistic!
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Take a deep breath and make the choice to turn inward for a season. Reconciling with your exwife/husband – to emotionally put the relationship behind you – will be critical if you have aspirations of meeting a special friend. Remember for many singles it can be a red flag for a potential suitor if you are on heels of a divorce. No one wants to be exposed to unforeseen drama coming down the pike. If you dive in to a relationship too soon you could be setting yourself up for chaos.
2. Catch Up
If it has been 10+ years since you have been on the market, take the time to familiarize yourself with the do’s and don’ts of modern day dating. Social media and technology have put a new spin on dating and you will not want to feel like you are living in the stone ages around modern day dating etiquette.
3. Be Open
Stay open to internet dating and alternative ways of meeting great singles. Remember there are millions of high quality singles on internet dating sites that are in a similar predicament as you are. Be clear and remember you get what you pay for. If you are trying to pinch pennies and go for the free sites you will likely come up short. Remember your $25 monthly investment will seem like a drop in the bucket when you meet the woman or man of your dreams. In short, don’t go cheap.
Hiring a dating coach/strategist will keep you from spinning your wheels and learning from trial & error. Dating can waste an enormous amount of time and resources if you are out of touch with some of the unspoken nuances. Get the perspective you need so when you venture out you will be in an ideal space to attract a special friend. Remember, if you keep doing what you are doing your dating life will not change. To get more insights on how these tips may apply to you inquire at Karla@NineGPS.com for a private consultation. Stay optimistic!
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Remember, the way you communicate will give the person you are sitting across from during a dinner date a wonderful glimpse into who you are. Learning how to fine tune your dating communication will be the single most important factor that draws her near or repels him away. Learning how to filter thoughts from your mind to your mouth takes work for many of us. Single men and women need to remember when you are on a date it only takes one slip of the tongue to say something that kills the mood. Learning how to play it smooth and keep all those opinionated thoughts to yourself for the time being can be challenging but will prove to be the right move in the long run.
Going on an extended commentary about who you know, what you have done and what you have can send messages to the opposite sex that you are needy and insecure. Learning how to be thoughtful about what comes out of your mouth takes self awareness. Self awareness is something that many singles need assistance with. The last thing you want to project on a date is that you are self centered. I realize your inability to manage this may be due to nervousness.
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